Online Dating – 11 Reasons To Go Online For Love

Where do you go when you are looking for love?

Are you considering joining an online dating site but not sure it’s for you?

Let me tell you how I first discovered online dating and why I firmly believe it fits in with our modern day lifestyles

A couple of years ago online dating still had a stigma attached to it. Although people were using the internet as a method of dating, they did not discuss it with friends or colleagues for fear of coming across desperate.

I recall a friend of mine who was initially embarrassed to tell me she had joined an online dating site. At the time, I was rather surprised as she was an attractive girl who would be considered quite a catch. However, after chatting to her I completely understood why she had resorted to this method of dating; she was simply tired of meeting timewasters who were not interested in committing to a relationship.

Whilst she had no desire to date some of the men who contacted her, there were quite a few she was interested in and she began a dating spell to make any “singleton” jealous. She then struck up an online relationship with someone who lived 100 miles from her. After exchanging many emails and chatting on the telephone, she decided to meet him. Obviously, the distance didn’t make the relationship ideal but the spark was there and she enjoyed 6 months dating someone with similar interests, shared romantic weekends together and had a fantastic holiday. Although he didn’t turn out to be “the one”, when I asked if she regretted joining an online dating site her answer was “Definitely not!” Her view was that if she hadn’t joined an online dating site, those 6 months would have been spent moaning about meeting the same timewasters in the same old haunts and wondering “what if”. She was simply being proactive in her search for love; after all life is far too short!

If you’re not convinced online dating is for you, here are 11 reasons why I think online dating has its advantages:-

You don’t have to wait until the weekend to meet someone.
You don’t have to get dressed up for a night “online”. Wear whatever you feel comfortable in at home.
If you work unusual hours online dating fits in with your schedule. You can log on at any time of the day to suit you; there is always someone online waiting to chat.
If you start chatting to someone and then decide they are not what you are looking for, put them back in the net gently and choose another. There are plenty of fish in the sea!
If you are tired of seeing the same old faces when you go out, there are people of all age groups all across the country waiting online to meet someone.
If you are new to an area online dating is a great way of meeting people whether it’s for friendship or dating. If you meet a few people online in your area, you can arrange a get together for you all rather than meeting on a one-to-one basis.
If all of your friends have settled down or you have recently become single what better way to meet new someone quickly than to go online and meet more singles!
Anonymous messaging and chat rooms let you flirt to your heart’s content without any embarrassment or getting tongue-tied.
You will probably find out more about someone online before you arrange a date with them than you would if you had met them in a bar. Online dating usually makes people more cautious about who they choose to date and in this day and age that can’t be a bad thing!
We now live and date very differently to previous generations where the traditional place to meet people was in nightclubs, parties, at work or through friends. By joining an online dating site you are not excluding these avenues but simply extending your opportunities of meeting someone.
Finally, 1 month’s membership costs less than a night out and gives you hundreds of opportunities to meet your perfect partner – every night!
With so many positive reasons to go online for love, finding your perfect partner has never been easier. Try it out for yourself and please let me know how you’re doing.

Alison Edwards runs [http://www.SnappyDates.com/] a UK based dating site.

Registration is free.

Dating Ideas For the Clueless

First dates never cease to be the one of the most thrilling events in one’s life. However, dating can become boring if one allows it to be. Here are a few dating ideas that will surely make dating like a shiny new pair of shoes.

1. Island Picnic

If you have the moolah, you can always get travel arrangements and head to a deserted island. A simple picnic on a not-so simple island will give your dating life that kick you have always been waiting for. This will be very much appreciated by married couples as well.

2. Food Tripping Date

You don’t have to spend so much if you will be only going to fast food chains. But it is a lot more fun to go restaurant-hopping and sampling each restaurant’s specialties. Don’t forget to skip some heavy snacks before doing this kind of date.

3. Wine Sampling

This could be more enjoyable if you are in a European country where all sorts of wines abound. However, many private wineries are springing up all over the place. Do your homework and see if you can find a local winery close to your location. Just make sure that you are not alcohol-intolerant to enjoy this dating idea.

4. Learn Something New

Learning a new skill could be handy. Learning a new skill with someone else is a surefire way to conjure an exciting mood during the date. Think Demi Moore and Patrick Swayze, except neither of you is a ghost, of course!

5. Window Shopping

Who says only women could enjoy this kind of date? Even if it is not a first date, as long as the guy also gets to go to the stores he likes visiting, it could be one fun time for the both of you. Also, it can make you both learn each others preferences when it comes to material things. Hint: gift hunches.

6. Truth or Dare Date

Pick a place to go to. Then while heading to that area, you can have fun learning about each other’s secrets while playing truth or dare.

7. Sports Date

Go hiking, golfing, mountain-climbing or just about anything that makes you both tick. This is one of those feel-good date ideas since sports induce the production of that body chemical that makes you feel good. Sweet!

With those ideas, you will never run out of new and enthralling activities to do. Just be creative.

Lawrence Andrews is an ePublisher, software developer, consultant, and author of numerous books. Visit his Private Label Content and Software site at [http://www.lmamedia.com] for more information about Dating Do’s and Dont’s.

Bad Date Survival Tips

Occasionally, a bad date happens to one person at a certain point in his or her life. One should do some assessment before writing off the person for life. No sparks at all? Too nervous to open any topic? Is he or she being rude? Here are some things that you can do.

How to deal with a bad date? Or when you are the one who’s about to make it bad…

1. If you are feeling too nervous opt for a date over coffee. You will have less time fidgeting due too overnervousness since after finishing your coffee you can easily bid your date a quick “ta-ta”.

2. There is no excuse for a date that is obnoxious and rude. Walk away Renee.

3. You and your date are not on the same wavelength? Endure the date, maintain your composure and leave politely. If your date asks for an extension, say an after meal drink, you can always politely (again) say no.

4. If you unintentionally insult your date, simply apologize then move on. If your insult is not that severe, your date might just forgive and forget.

5. Never provide entertainment at your expense. Humor is cool, self-bashing is not. It is not worth it to make your self feel uncomfortable trying to impress your date.

How to move on?

1. Don’t punish yourself for a date that went horrible. Save it somewhere in your mind that is remote. Or better yet, commend yourself for being able to go through it. Learn from your mistakes.

2. Share the details with a friend. This way you can treat it more of a laughingstock than something that will haunt you for life.

3. Get occupied with other activities so you can forgive yourself and forget about the bad date. Exercising, eating something sweet or watching a movie will make the bad vibes go away sooner than you expect.

4. Honesty and kindness are a good combination when it comes to turning down a bad date that would like a second round. Say something a bit blunt but peppered with some praise — is that an oxymoron?

5. Now, if you think that the person still deserves a second chance, by all means, give him or her the second try. You can always laugh the bad date incident away when you are more comfortable with each other.

Lawrence Andrews is an ePublisher, software developer, consultant, and author of numerous books. Visit his Private Label Content and Software site at [http://www.lmamedia.com] for more information about Dating Do’s and Dont’s.

Special Groups Online Dating Tips

Caution! Do be aware that online dating is not a totally safe environment. Be very careful in investing your money, time and heart in it.

o Use only a free email account. By using your email accounts with sites such as Yahoo, Gmail, Bigfoot and Hotmail, you make easy correspondence while keeping your local email secure. Do consider hard to guess passwords which are different from your log in name.

o Avoid creating a profile name that gives a clue as to where you’re from and who you are. Choose a simple nickname but far from your true identity, to avoid getting your personal information accessed by unwanted individuals.

Also, avoid revealing too much personal data when filling up your profile, as they usually appear automatically.

When in an online conversation:

o Ensure secrecy. Keep in mind to never expose and provide anyone with your personal information such as full name, address, phone number and email address. Anybody who asks you these early in the conversation, take it as a warning. You are in control here, and you can stop communicating when you feel uncomfortable.

A lot of sites offer a messaging system which can be used for communicating with singles. Using this system is safer than using your email.

o Remain anonymous. Don’t give personal information readily. During communications, ask questions. Ask him or her about his hobbies, education, career and interests. Take note of all of these, as the person you are talking to needs to be consistent. If they are not consistent then chances are they are not being truthful with you and not worth your time.

o Be honest. Likewise in your end, be honest enough, but at the same time not giving too much information as far as your work and home address is concerned. Just be truthful with your conversations. Convey your intentions as clearly as possible. And if you don’t like him, tell him politely. Don’t find excuses and give him the impression that you are interested in meeting with him.

o Be safe. If after many emails both of you feel that it is time to be talking on the phone, the man should be the one to give the girl his number and the girl should be the one to call the man. The girl should never give her phone number.

o Be protected. When you are definitely sure that you would want to meet the person offline, ask him for references, such as his friends, relatives or co- workers. This is not to give them the feeling that you don’t trust them, but if they too trust you, they would understand that you are very much willing to meet with him, but you just want to be on the safe side. If he has a genuine and sincere interest in you and has nothing to be afraid of, then he shouldn’t repel, but willingly give you all the information.

You could also do a background check. There are sites which offer this for free.

The meeting:

o Inform somebody of the meeting. When the plan for a meeting is already set up, make certain you tell your friend or a member of the family where exactly are you going and who you’re meeting.

o Bring your cell phone along, so in cases of emergency, you can call your friend right away.

o Use common sense and judge accordingly.

o Meet him or her in a public place such as a café, park, museum, or anywhere as long as there are a lot of people.

Dos and Don’ts on your first date:

o Do pray before a date (for Christians)

o Do be on time.

o Do look good and be neat.

o Do compliment.

o Do make your date comfortable.

o Do listen.

o Do talk about something you have a common interest with (for Christians, talk about the verses in the bible and ask each other’s opinions).

o Do take her to your church (for Christians).

o Do be an exciting date. Listen to your date and make sure to let your date feel that you are interested with all that he/she has to say.

o Do ask your date about her hobbies, career and future plans.

o Do be romantic.

o Do enjoy your moment together.

o Do laugh at her jokes.

o Do be yourself.

o Do avoid touching.

Don’ts

o Don’t be late.

o Don’t talk about your past relationship.

o Don’t pretend.

o Don’t ask too much questions.

o Don’t show disrespect to your date’s beliefs.

o Don’t forget to say thank you after the date.

Lawrence Andrews is an ePublisher, software developer, consultant, and author of numerous books. Visit his Private Label Content and Software site at [http://www.lmamedia.com] for more information about Dating Do’s and Dont’s.

Woman’s Touch: Dating Do’s and Don’ts For Females

It can be difficult to be a woman in the dating arena. A lot of things can go wrong for you more than it can for your male counterpart. Plus, men can be really dense about a few things. Well, no worries. Here are a few tips on what to do and not to do during a date:

1) Timing is important – Timing as in ‘on time’. No matter what they say, there is no such thing as ‘fashionably late’. For the first date, this can give the guy jitters and make him think that you’ve stood him up. For the later dates, having him wait for you in the living room for half an hour with either your roommate, your sister or, worse, your father is not something you want him to do – whether it be for the embarrassing stories or Dad’s ‘eyes of doom’.

2) Keep your head on straight – Yes, we all know dates are supposed to be fun, but knowing what’s going on is important both for your own safety and for you love life. Is your date acting suspicious or just nervous? Maybe you’d want to end the date early or do something to calm him down. Is he taking notice of what you’re wearing or just ogling? The choice to either wink at him or just stare knowingly is up to you. Is his attention on you or the girl next to you? You might wish to reward him with a smile or a slap. Situational awareness is not just for soldiers on the front but also for young women on the prowl.

3) Be nice – Have a positive attitude, find things that you like and tell him. Compliment him about his clothes, how he looks and how well the date is going. It puts him at ease and also makes him feel important. It also shows him that you’re taking notice of him and you appreciate him. But, don’t lie. Like I said, look at the bright side of things – the service of the restaurant may have been slow but the ambience was terrific. Try making it into a habit, you aren’t lying – you’re just being diplomatic!

4) Do not complain – This may be technically part of tip three, but it deserves a separate heading. This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t tell him that something is wrong or something makes you uncomfortable. The way you phrase it and the tone you use is important here. ‘Venting’, like we do with our girl friends, is not going to go over well with him since he’ll probably misinterpret it. Grin and bear it then tell him after the date in calm, reasoned tones your problem. Trust me, he’ll understand and he’ll try to make it up to you.

5) Enjoy the date – A date is a chance to get to know each other and to enjoy yourselves. Have fun during the date. Try not to be hyper-critical and just take things in stride. If you’re not having fun, your date will notice and, trust me, he will get nervous which will probably start ruining the experience for both of you. Also, just let your guard down for a little while. Let him see the real you. He may or may not like it, but in the end he will appreciate the honesty of the act. Besides, if he doesn’t like you for you, why should you keep on dating?

6) Afterwards, show interest – If you really like the guy, waiting for the call after a successful date is nerve-wracking. You know he’s interested and you’re definitely interested, you’re just waiting for him to call you so you could arrange another date. Try giving him a day or two. He usually has to get his act together and work up the courage to call. If he doesn’t call, he’s probably still tongue-tied from being in your presence. Call him up to say hello. Talk about the date and how you had fun and give hints. No matter how dense he will pick up on it and he’ll probably be asking you for another date!

7) Be consistent – For those who’ve crossed the ‘First Date’ Rubicon, try maintaining the impression you made on him on that first date. Men don’t like surprises except, of course, if they plan them. This doesn’t mean, however, that you’ll just give him the first date you. Talk to each other, both on and off dates, to get to know each other more. What he got on the first date was a sneak peek, what he should get from your continued dating should be the entire reel.

Well, there they are seven tips for dating success! Hopefully, this advice could help lead you through today’s tough tangle of relationships. Happy hunting!

Lawrence Andrews is an ePublisher, software developer, consultant, and author of numerous books. Visit his Private Label Content and Software site at [http://www.lmamedia.com] for more information about Dating Do’s and Dont’s.

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Mature Fun from Adult Dating Services

Modern technology gave new dimension to the ever elusive adult dating scene. Now, adult dating services abound for those who dislike the nitty-gritty and dating “procedures and stages.” These dating services also make less confident people more assertive through the initial “faceless” communication.

They offer fun activities for those looking for friends, activity partners, and lovers.

Here are a few of the best sites in the field of adult dating.

American Singles

It claims to jumpstarting one’s love life. It is one of those adult dating services that allow the posting of a profile and uploading a picture. Matchmaking is made through setting up its members with those who match their profiles.

eHarmony

It is another adult dating service that caters to those who are searching for friends and life partners. It takes pride on its innovative profile matching system. It boasts of its 29 key dimensions that predict in-depth compatibility and more successful relationships.

Venusrooms.com

It is also an adult dating service that claims its being one of the world’s leading online dating sites. It is for those who live in UK and USA. It is also a free adult dating service. Its features include dating profiles with picture galleries, video dating profiles, an online dating chat program, friends list, adult dating ratings, e-mail alerts, etc.

Tickle

It is an adult dating service that uses personality and IQ tests to facilitate the matchmaking process. Members of Tickle are often with college education, professional and those that reside in large cities.

Are you ready for adult fun or simply looking for less teeny-bopper kind of dating style? Then, choose from the wide array of adult dating services.

Who knows. . .one could even deliver your Mr. and Ms. Right to your door step.

Lawrence Andrews is an ePublisher, software developer, consultant, and author of numerous books. Visit his Private Label Content and Software site at [http://www.lmamedia.com] for more information about Dating Do’s and Dont’s.

How to Have an Impressive Date With a Woman

Asking her for a date:

Ask her out in person. Your conversations together is an opportunity for you to discover if both your personalities and ideas are attuned with each other, before you do decide to ask her out for a date.

When calling through the phone. Don’t forget to mention to her the conversations you had. This will give her the impression that you do listen, making her feel important. Then if you feel that it is time to ask her, go ahead; ask gently, not in a demanding manner.

Ask when you both are alone. Never ask a girl out on a date in front of others, like her friends. This will either embarrass her, and may say yes or embarrass you, if she says no.

During the date:

Look good, be neat. Put extra effort to the way you look. Take the time be well groomed, smell nice and choose your clothes well. It must correspond to the place with which your date is set. Make a good impression, so you can charm her and she can be proud of you.

Do not be late. Prepare for the big day ahead. Make the necessary reservations and planning for your date. If you have planned for it, she will be impressed that you did put some effort on your night together. Be sure that during the “big day” you have no appointments so you won’t be cramming and be on time.

Be polite. Be sure to make her feel good by complementing the way she looks. And when seated at the table, turn your cell phone off. This will signal to her that you are very much interested in your moment together.

Say her name. Make it a point to say her name ever so often in your conversations, to make her feel at ease and special.

Smile. Aside from putting up a positive attitude, your smile is an indication that you are happy to be with her.

Have a Sense of Humor. Making a woman laugh means you have won half your battle. This means that she is having a nice time and creates a positive atmosphere. This will be an occasion she would remember, because she had fun!

Be attentive. Listen to what she has to say or is saying, do not interrupt. Let her finish, before you state your opinion and make eye contact.

Be honest. Let her get to know you by telling her what you do, what interests you, don’t make up stories. If she will not like you for who you are, then she is not worth your time. Show interest in her too, by asking her about her work, hobbies and her likes. Be sensible and honest in initiating such conversations.

o Relax. Do not worry that your date is not having a good time. Go ahead and ask her. Just manage yourself well and enjoy the evening. Keep the conversations open and ask questions. Be sincere.

Do not pretend. Be yourself. Pretending into somebody that you’re not, will not work in the long run. The truth will always come out sooner or later. It is a rewarding feeling if someone is drawn to you for who you really are.

Never compare. It will be very unfair of you if you compare your date to your past girlfriend. Keep in mind that she is a totally different person with her own personality. Take the time to discover her; you might be pleased if you do. Comparing won’t get you anywhere. An important thing to remember, do not ever articulate your comparisons with your date, this will surely lead to disaster.

Never tell your date about your break-up. Keep in mind that you asked her out so you both could have fun together. She is not your therapist, so do not recount your past relationship. Burry the past and move on. Here is a woman in front of you who is interested to know you more. Get to know her too, initiate a conversation that could lead to a common interest.

Enjoy. Dating should be exciting and relaxing. A woman could sense if you are enjoying or not. Don’t stress yourself trying so hard to make it “The Perfect date” because it won’t be. But you both can enjoy it. After all, you did invite her out because you liked her in the first place. Be spontaneous and have fun.

Lawrence Andrews is an ePublisher, software developer, consultant, and author of numerous books. Visit his Private Label Content and Software site at [http://www.lmamedia.com] for more information about Dating Do’s and Dont’s.

How to Overcome Online Dating Problems

It is exciting to meet someone you met at an online dating service. However, you must practice cautionary measures so as to avoid having problems when you meet him or her.

The following are some guidelines to have a hitch- and worry-free dating.

1. When meeting, do make up arrangements first. Since you barely know the person, do not let him or her meet you from your home.

2. Meet in public places. If it is okay with your date, you could ask another pair or some friends to go with you. If he or she is genuine in his or her interests, this shouldn’t be a problem.

3. If you are having a lunch or dinner in a café or restaurant, you should shoulder half of the bill. By paying half of the bill, you are free from obligations that you have to meet the person again.

4. If you have your own mode of transportation, like a car, you should use it. Do not rely on a date’s car so that you won’t feel that you have to ride with him or her if the date turns awry.

5. Try to avoid alcoholic drinks while having the date.

6. If you are planning to meet your date the second time around, arrange for one and evaluate if he or she deserves to know your personal home address. Never give your address when meeting the person the first time.

7. Do not go to secluded and dimly-lit areas at night. Try staying in crowded places as possible.

8. Try listening to your intuition. If something doesn’t feel right, then it would be better that you assess it. If something is really troubling you or is not right, maybe it would be best that you thank your date and leave as soon as possible.

9. Tell a friend your date’s contact details and plans for the date. It might be wise for him or her to check you from time to time. You could also ask some friends to meet you and check up after your date with the person.

11. Remember: Do not ever give your personal contact information to a person you barely know. He or she should understand if you are not giving him or her your personal contact information, at least on your first date.

12. Be alert at all times.

Like traditional dating, online dating has some risks, including safety concerns. To avoid having problems in your online dating, just remember the tips above.

Lawrence Andrews is an ePublisher, software developer, consultant, and author of numerous books. Visit his Private Label Content and Software site at [http://www.lmamedia.com] for more information about Dating Do’s and Dont’s.

Profile 101: Why Should Somebody Go for All the Fuss Just to Create a Profile?

Online dating is so prevalent nowadays. Every year, more and more people are being hooked up to their Internet just to get online dating services. In fact, almost 40 million people in the United States were reported to have supposedly used online dating services just for the year 2003.

Membership growth is continually increasing at an unprecedented rate.

However, there are still people who complain about not getting the desired result they had been looking for in online dating services.

The reason? It’s in the profiles. Many people just don’t realize this, but it’s their profiles that really matters.

Why? Here’s a list of the reasons why profiles are important in being successful online dating users.

1. First impressions last

Even if it sounds like a cliché it is true that first impressions really matter a lot and create a lasting impression on the other person. Therefore, it’s best for people to project good first impressions by creating profiles that are worth reading.

2. It’s the only solid information one can get hold of.

Information stated in somebody’s profiles is the only solid data the other person can get hold of in the meantime. So, it’s best for a person to give them what they deserve to know.

3. Photographs can speak a thousand words but are not enough.

Contrary to most popular beliefs, pictures alone cannot reveal a portion of an individual’s personality. It may denote some meaning to a certain degree but lack solid information, in which most people are trying to find.

Other people are dying to know more about other people, so, it would be better to give them what they have searched for.

4. Great profiles improve the chances of meeting somebody who is really interested with the concerned person.

It’s simple. The logic goes like this: If a person likes someone based on the profiles given, chances are, they will be compatible because the searcher was able to relate to somebody who might be in the same level of interest as he or she is.

Hence, it all depends on the profile of a person if someone wants to find somebody based on compatibility.

So, for people to get positive results in online dating, it’s best to maintain a profile that sounds and looks as good as the person who owns it. If this is the case, then, online dating can give a person some things more than the gratifications he or she longs to have.

Lawrence Andrews is an ePublisher, software developer, consultant, and author of numerous books. Visit his Private Label Content and Software site at [http://www.lmamedia.com] for more information about Dating Do’s and Dont’s.

Traditional Dating Versus Online Dating

When you are single and you wish to place yourself on the dating market, you should first consider what kind of dating you prefer. With today’s technology, there are two kinds of dating available – traditional and online.

What does online and traditional dating has to offer?

1) Traditional means. If you are a kind of person that is lucky in finding prospective dates on a regular basis using traditional dating methods, you may not need online dating. However, if you have a hard time finding a date in real time, you will benefit from online dating services.

2) The importance of time. For most single people, time is a valuable thing. When a busy and stressful daily life captures you, you will not have time to go out to party and meet new people. Online dating saves your time because it acts as a filter before you even meet someone.

3) Common location. In traditional dating, location will never be a problem because most of the time, you are acquainted at parties, social events, and other happenings just around the city. Although online dating offers you the opportunity to meet new people in all parts of the world, it would be a problem when you are located three continents farther from your date.

4) The dreaded blind date. Have you ever experienced being set up by your friends with no clue on whom your date would be? Well, if you hate this scenario of traditional dating, you would enjoy online dating. Through the internet, you have the opportunity to get to know someone before you meet face to face. By becoming acquainted with your date beforehand, you could easily see the probability of a smooth conversation when you meet in real time.

5) The dream partner. When you meet a person in a bar, party or social gatherings, the first thing that attracts you to someone includes the physical attributes. You may not know where the person was born, goals in life or personality. In dating online, you have the choice to search for possible dates that have the same interest, religion, location, personality, and situation as yourself. There is a larger possibility that you would find the person who would complement you the most.

6) Cost effective. Unlike meeting your date for dinner or coffee, online dating is more cost effective than traditional dating.

Whatever kind of dating you decide is suitable for you, always be cautious in giving out personal information to a person you just met. Be sure that your date is genuinely safe. He could either be the person of your dreams or your worst nightmare.

Lawrence Andrews is an ePublisher, software developer, consultant, and author of numerous books. Visit his Private Label Content and Software site at [http://www.lmamedia.com] for more information about Dating Do’s and Dont’s.